I can never reach on time despite my best efforts! 😔 the other day I started early but was stuck in traffic hence I got late 😏 well this time I got this last minute call I had to take 😧. I always have reasons to justify my inability to achieve an outcome. I have become an expert at giving reasons and mind you the reasons may all be genuine. However, the emphasis on reasons is so much that the outcome/result (in this case reaching on time) gets lost in the woods. Primary reason why this happens is because I am not committed to the result or outcome.
I cannot expect to get different results by doing the same things. Hence, it is important to determine what is the result or outcome I want. The next step is to ask myself and get an acknowledgement that I am fully committed to the result. Following which I need to plan and make conscious choices to accomplish the results.
- Setting up of goals/results/outcomes
- Acknowledge the importance of these goals and commit to the result
- Develop a plan of what choices/alternatives exist regarding my behavior and actions
- Select the choice(s) and implement
- Stop and check if my choices are leading to the results/outcomes I want to achieve, if not then re-assess choices and change course
- In the end, make a note of learning - what worked well? if in a similar situation what choices will I make knowing what I know now?
Be conscious of your choices, am I on an autopilot mode? am I doing things like I always do? choosing the same path, the usual approach which got me where I am today? Do I always say yes? Do I always behave in this manner? It is true that my methods, behavior and actions has got me where I am today, but will it now help me in achieving the outcome/result I want? This is what I meant when I said "we cannot expect to get different results by making the same choices with regards to our behavior and actions".
Summarizing by quoting Sadhguru:
Everyone is making choices, but choices made in unawareness are compulsions. Let us say you get angry right now. It is actually your choice to be angry. Somewhere, you believe that is the way to handle the situation, but the choice is made in such unawareness that it is a compulsion. It is happening compulsively on a different level. So you are living by choice, but choices are being made without awareness – unconscious choices. The whole thing is to shift into making conscious choices.
